Since my favorite websites and blogs who have posted this keep deleting it, I’m gonna post it myself. The original is by Mark Gungor, a marriage expert and comedian. Video in the bottom.
Now I believe this does not work for everyone. My ex definitely had a nothing box, he could just sit and look dead. My partner has more of a wires brain like me. So our communication already starts different, but I have seen in life that this “Boxes and Wires” thing can really help understand people and the way they communicate. You just need to ‘know’ if a person has a wires or boxes brain.
Who knows, maybe there are lots more definitions and ways of explaining, but I really like this one. My thinking is very associative. I can work with the ‘wires idea’.
“Men’s brains and women’s brains are different!
And here’s how: Men’s brains are made up of little boxes and we have a box for everything. We have a box for the car. We have a box for the money. We have a box for the job, a box for the kids, a box for you, a box for your mother…somewhere in the basement.
And the rule is the boxes do not touch. All right?
When a man discusses a particular subject, he goes to the appropriate box. Slides it out. Opens it up. Will discuss only the content of that particular box and then when he is done, he puts it away hoping not to touch or disturb any of the other boxes.
Now a woman’s brain is made up of a big ball of wire and everything is connected to everything…It’s like the Internet super highway, and it’s all driven by energy that we call emotion. It’s one of the reasons that women tend to remember everything because if you take an event and tie it to emotion you can remember it forever. The same thing happens to men, but it doesn’t happen very often, because frankly…we don’t care. But women tend to remember EVERYTHING! Bzzzzzzzz zzz z z zzz…..
Men have a box in their brain that women are not aware of. This particular box, has NOTHING in it. It’s true. In fact, we call it the “Nothing” box. And of all the boxes a man has in his brain, the nothing box is his favorite box. If a man has a chance, he’ll go to his nothing box EVERYTIME. That’s why a man can do something seemingly completely brain dead for hours on end. You know, like, fishing.
They’ve actually measured this. The University of Pennsylvania did a study and men can do absolutely nothing and still breathe. Women can’t do it. Their minds never stop! Zzz-Zzzz-zzzz. And they don’t understand the “Nothing” box…and it drives them CRAZY…because NOTHING makes a woman go crazy like watching a man…doing…nothing!”
The Nothing Box
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