Boxes and wires, a brain story

Since my favorite websites and blogs who have posted this keep deleting it, I’m gonna post it myself. The original is by Mark Gungor, a marriage expert and comedian. Video in the bottom. Now I believe this does not work for everyone. My ex definitely had a nothing box, he could just sit and look dead. My partner has more of a wires brain like me. So our communication already starts different, but I have seen in life that this “Boxes and Wires” thing can really help understand people and the way they communicate. You just need to ‘know’ if a person has a wires or boxes brain. Who knows, maybe there are lots more definitions and ways of explaining, but I really like this one. My thinking is very associative. I can work with the ‘wires idea’. “Men’s brains and women’s brains are different! And here’s how: Men’s brains are made up of little boxes and we have a box for everything. We have a box for the car. We have a box for the money. We have a box for the job, a box for the kids, a box for you, a box for your mother…somewhere in the Lees meer…

Perspective

At the moment I’m trying to get back in to working. I hope my time of hospitals and surgeries is done. But finding a new job is a hard process. Nothing annoys me more then people saying, if you really wanted it, you would have found a job by now. I have been starting to notice a lot of things are all about perspective. Honesty is key. I am (too) honest. Refusing to hide my accident, refusing to lie on my resume about my time after the accident. Even tho this was asked of me to do. I consider this stupid. If people Google my name, they will find my accident in the paper, they will find the truth. So I am sticking to my way, which has always been the truth! There is the negative side. What if she can’t handle work? What is she needs more surgery and I am left with no employee? What if…. is the mother of all anxiety. Because I also sometimes think what if….. It’s easy to fall in to the negative. It is always there. Read a newspaper. Start your day on your Facebook timeline. Unless you follow positive quotes and pages, Lees meer…